Fri, 24 Jul 2009 16:52:07 -0700 Kidpower International http://www.kidpower.org Podcast Maker v1.3.8b - http://www.lemonzdream.com/podcastmaker Life is full of opportunities, adventures, and PEOPLE. People Safety skills help children, teens, and adults get the very best out of their interactions with other people while staying safe, acting wisely, and getting help when they need it. People Safety skills include, among other things, advocacy, boundary setting, stranger safety, conflict resolution, and skills for dealing with bullying. The People Safety Podcast draws on KIDPOWER International's 20 years of experience teaching People Safety skills to children, teens, and adults to provide parents, educators, and caregivers with accessible, enjoyable, and thought-provoking commentary created to get you thinking, talking, practicing, and -- we hope -- thoroughly enjoying People Safety skills in your everyday lives. en © 2008 All rights reserved. Kidpower Teenpower Fullpower International safety@@kidpower.org http://www.kidpower.org/podcast-graphic.png http://www.kidpower.org 212 233 Kids & Family Education Podcasting people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence clean Erika Leonard Setting boundaries and making other choices at a public place like a park is easier when we practice not making assumptions about what people are feeling or what they’re intending but instead focus on noticing behavior and setting boundaries around that. Just like kids, adults and teenagers try to start friendships in different ways. This can sometimes be confusing no matter how old you are. Adults can help young people learn about this by noticing the differences, describing what they are noticing in very simple terms, supporting kids in making choices that work well for them, and setting clear boundaries. In some places, like at a school, adults can set boundaries for everyone on the playground – “No grabbing” or “No tackling,” for example. At a big park open to everyone in your neighborhood, though, it’s a little different and a little more complicated. Setting boundaries and making other choices at a place like this is easier when we practice not making assumptions about what people are feeling or what they’re intending but instead focus on noticing behavior – what they are actually doing – and setting boundaries around that. Chris still didn’t want his own shirt grabbed, but he started to see that grabbing didn’t automatically mean that someone was being hurtful. Getting that assumption out of the way made Chris’ decision-making at the park that day much easier. Chris started smiling after watching Trey for a while. Then, he decided he wanted to go back out and play. After getting a little extra coaching from me setting boundaries like, “I want to play, but no grabbing,” he went back to the play structure. Chris and Trey actually figured out that they both loved to run and go down the slides, and they ended up having a really good time together – with no grabbing. http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/ways-to-play.mp3 Fri, 24 Jul 2009 16:25:10 -0700 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:06:23 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International Adults want kids to learn to handle problems. That’s why they say things like “Figure it out on your own.” But if you don't know how to solve the problem, then persisting until you get adult help is important. Sometimes the problems that we have are with stuff, like pencils and broken glass, but sometimes the problems are with people – like maybe kids are being mean with words or maybe people are being too rough. If you have the skill to manage the problem safely and effectively, it’s your responsibility to solve it yourself. But if you DON’T have the skills to manage the problem safely and effectively so that the problem stops, then it’s more of a broken-glass kind of mess. You need to get help and to keep getting help until an adult really understands the whole story and helps you get the problem to stop. http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/solve-yourself.mp3 Thu, 21 May 2009 10:59:44 -0700 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:06:57 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International If you make a mistake by saying something hurtful, you can work to make things better by apologizing and by learning how to make different choices in the future. That’s one way a mistake can actually lead people to make a relationship stronger. They help us let in all the good things about being together – like the fun stories or games, compliments people share, or jokes people enjoy together. At the same time, our screens work to keep out words that might be hurtful so that we can keep our hearts and our feelings safe and take charge in a way that makes things better, not worse. This is important, because even really good friends and people who love each other a lot sometimes say things that feel hurtful. Most of us have probably even made that mistake ourselves, sometimes by accident and sometimes because we were upset, and we said something hurtful on purpose. That would be a mistake, and mistakes are part of learning. Nobody’s perfect, and all of us – no matter how old we are – have the power to keep learning more about using our own words in ways that make things better, not worse. If you make a mistake by saying something hurtful, you can work to make things better by apologizing and by learning how to make different choices in the future. That’s one way a mistake can actually lead people to make a relationship stronger. Those internal screens that can protect our feelings, our hearts and minds, from hurtful words can also help us stay focused on making choices that build stronger relationships. Kids, teens, and adults who imagine these screens can still notice the mean words that people say, but they can be aware of those words without letting the words inside where they could hurt and also where they can get stuck. The awareness of the problem is one kind of fresh air that helps people stay centered and think about how to solve the problem. The mean words themselves, they’re like the bugs – they stay outside. People using their internal safety screens can keep their feelings from being hurt and also think clearly so that they can take charge in the moment, maybe by stopping themselves from saying mean words back, or maybe by creating space for a while so that they can talk about the problem later when they are both feeling calm. Of course, screens aren’t perfect, so it’s important to know how to get help when we need it. Some bees and flies got through one of my screens at my house. It had some holes in it, so I got help, and I got the screen fixed. When something gets past our internal Safety Screens, we can get help, and talking about this kind of problem in terms of screens and bugs can help us be more clear sometimes when we explain it to other people. One boy went to his mom after a good friend had said some mean things to him. And, using the idea of his Safety Screen and the idea of mean words being like bugs, he told her what had happened, and he added, “Sometimes, the bugs get through, and if they’re just flies or ants, I feel fine. I know how to deal with that problem. But Mom,” he added, “sometimes the bugs are wasps, and they sting, and then I need your help.” Because he was able to give his Mom a good idea of the problem and how it felt for him, she was in a much better position to help him figure out the best next steps for building the strongest possible relationship with his friend. By keeping our screens in place and getting help when we need it, we can all be safer while making progress, just like he did, in making communication in our own relationships that much stronger. http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/safety-screens.mp3 Tue, 24 Mar 2009 16:01:50 -0700 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:05:38 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International Understanding the difference between tattling and telling is a big part of being safe, because telling to get help with problems is important, but tattling is hurtful, and it makes problems bigger. For kids and for grown-ups both, the word or the idea of ‘telling’ can get really tangled up in our minds with behaviors that we don’t like, things like whining, complaining, or people being mean, and that tangling can happen because lots of times, people say that they are ‘telling’ or that they are ‘going to tell.’ But, they are doing it in a way that’s hurtful, not helpful. http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/tattle-tell.mp3 Mon, 09 Feb 2009 11:59:31 -0800 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:05:21 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International Learning to endure unwanted physical affection is not a safe life habit. By respecting others' boundaries, I have the power to support the development of those skills and also strengthen the trust and the affection in our relationship. http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/enduring-affection.mp3 Wed, 14 Jan 2009 11:45:24 -0800 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:06:03 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International By looking around, we’re much more likely to notice potential problems earlier. By noticing early, we can take action to prevent problems and stay safe, making our odds of having a good day go way up. http://www.kidpower.org http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/look-around.mp3 Tue, 09 Dec 2008 10:43:38 -0800 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:02:37 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International Most people in the world are good. That means most strangers are also good. But we have stranger safety rules to be safe with strangers, like we have animal safety habits for being around animals we don’t know. http://www.kidpower.org http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/stranger-ranger.mp3 Mon, 10 Nov 2008 13:30:23 -0800 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:06:48 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International Tools work best when we match the tool to the problem that we’re facing. This is true for hand tools like hammers and screwdrivers, and it’s true for safety tools, as well. http://www.kidpower.org http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/safety-tools.mp3 Mon, 06 Oct 2008 11:40:20 -0700 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:04:58 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International When we’re triggered or exploded with any feeling – like sadness, fear or anger – it’s hard to think clearly and make wise choices for ourselves. Next time you’re angry and ready to give someone an electronic piece of your mind, think first! http://www.kidpower.org http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/email-angry.mp3 Wed, 10 Sep 2008 16:05:48 -0700 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:03:58 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International This episode explores one of the best tools for noticing, preventing, or dealing with possible problems early, before they grow between friends, family members, and others. Understanding this tool supports better school experiences, too! http://www.kidpower.org http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/internal-alarm.mp3 Wed, 03 Sep 2008 12:40:20 -0700 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:04:47 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense, teenpower, fullpower, kid, power, kids, safety tips, personal safety, self, building, confidence, parenting, awareness, skills, protection, women's safety, teenagers, school violence Kidpower International It can be great to listen to your headphones while you are out in the world, but it makes it difficult to be aware of what is really going on around you. How do you decide when to use your earphones? Adults get to choose for themselves, and children get to choose within the boundaries their adults give. The truth is, wearing earphones can interfere with awareness, so Thinking First about where you are, what you are doing, and what possible problems might come up helps you figure out the best choice for you in different situations. http://www.kidpower.org http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/earphones.mp3 Tue, 12 Aug 2008 12:18:25 -0700 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:03:34 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense Kidpower International Many people enjoy sneaking up on others and surprising them. Usually, they do this to have fun, but a lot of the time it starts problems instead. Many kids, teens, and adults enjoy sneaking up on others and surprising them, maybe by jumping out from behind a door or by creeping up behind a friend or a family member very quietly. Usually, they do this to have fun, but a lot of the time it starts problems instead. In fact, when the person who was surprised acts grumpy or irritated, the person who did the surprising often says something like, "I'm just having fun!" or "Can't you take a joke?!" Lots of common relationship challenge can follow: people might stomp away and sulk, or they might escalate the situation by hitting, or they might decide to "get the other person back" with even more scary energy. When friends and family avoid communicating about this very basic kind of problem, they often end up choosing to avoid each other or worrying -- instead of relaxing and having a good time -- when they are together. http://www.kidpower.org http://www.kidpower.org/resources/podcast/sneaking-up.mp3 Tue, 12 Aug 2008 12:18:04 -0700 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:03:57 people, safety, kidpower, kids, personal, self-defense Kidpower International People Safety skills are everyday tools for building and strengthening relationships at home, at school, on the job, and in your community.  They’re also the tools you use to be safe in difficult or potentially dangerous situations with other people. If your life brings you in contact with other people, then you deserve People Safety skills for getting the most out of every interaction you have.  It's true that People Safety skills are powerful tools for preventing, avoiding, de-escalating, and escaping from situations that have the potential to be truly dangerous, but they also happen to be the most powerful relationship-building skills you and those you love could have.   In fact, using your People Safety skills every day is like staying in shape for a big event.  When you practice using your People Safety skills on an everyday basis, you are doing good things for yourself and those you care about -- improving understanding and communication, advocating for yourselves and others, setting boundaries so your time together goes more smoothly.   At the same time, you are practicing and strengthening your ability to be aware, take charge, and get help in all kinds of ways. If you end up needing the skills to be safe in a much more serious situation -- a 'big event' -- those familiar skills are likely to be right there in your confident reach, ready to keep you safe! People Safety skills are the tools for building safety, but they are also the tools for building the life and relationships you want with other people.  No matter where you live, how old you are, or what your strengths and abilities might be, you deserve a strong set of People Safety skills and the confidence to use them to make your life safer and more enjoyable.   All of us at Kidpower, an international nonprofit organization with twenty years of People Safety education experience, are proud and happy to share these skills with you! http://www.kidpower.org what-people-safety.mp3 Thu, 03 Jul 2008 12:10:08 -0700 Kids & Family, Education, Podcasting clean 00:05:49 Kidpower, People, Safety