Kidpower skills gave my son the confidence to stop the middle school bullying that was making him miserable.
Kidpower showed me how to advocate for our four-year-old daughter, who was being taunted at her preschool.
The Kidpower Safety and Respect Message
Tell your kids: “You have the RIGHT to be treated with safety and respect, and the RESPONSIBILITY to act safely and respectfully towards yourself and others.”
Kidpower’s 10 Core Social Safety Skills
At Kidpower, we use the term “Social Safety” to mean people being safe with and around people and building healthy relationships. A strong foundation of Social Safety Skills can prepare individuals of all ages and abilities to enjoy life more through increased confidence, better relationships, and fewer problems with people. You can use these 10 Core Social Safety Skills, and the links to articles that go more in depth, as a checklist to prepare children, teens, and adults, including those with special needs, to take charge of their personal safety and well-being:
1. Act with awareness, calm, and respectful confidence so that people will listen to you better and bother you less.
2. Protect your feelings from hurtful words or behavior instead of taking negative messages inside where they can make you miserable for a very long time.
3. Stay in charge of what you say and do by managing your emotional triggers so that you are able to think clearly, make wise choices, and act respectfully towards yourself and others no matter how you feel inside. Acting respectfully sometimes requires NOT doing what someone wants you to by refusing politely and instead doing what you think is safest or best for your well-being.
4. Recognize what is and is not safe so that you can assess a situation and avoid most trouble before it starts. This includes knowing and using Kidpower’s Relationship Safety Rules and Stranger Safety Rules.
5. Move away from trouble and towards safety so that you can stop problems quickly, before they grow.
6. Check First and Think First before you make decisions about what you do, who is with you, and where you go. Until they have the experience and the skills to make these decisions for themselves, children are safest if they Stay Together with their parents and other responsible adults and Check First before changing the plan. Both children and adults are safer if they Think First before taking action – and Check First with those who are responsible for the results of their decisions.
8. Follow the safety rules about touch, teasing, and play in healthy relationships so that you can have fun and avoid unsafe behavior.
9. Persist until you get the help you need so that you know how to find people who have the power to help you, when and how to interrupt someone who is distracted or busy, and how to keep asking if someone doesn’t listen.
10. Be prepared to use your voice and body to stop an attack so that you can escape from a violent situation and get to safety where someone can help you.
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ABC TV Interview
This ABC View from the Bay interview with Irene van der Zande, Kidpower’s Executive Director and Founder, who describes how parents and teachers can use Kidpower Social Safety Skills to protect their kids from bullying.
Walk in Another's Shoes
Teens Speak Out About Bullying!
Kidpower of Colorado Teen Advisory Board created this video project to raise awareness about bullying and as a call to action.
Take action to stop bullying, harassment, assault, abuse, and other violence:
Kidpower Publications Provide Social Safety Skills and Strategies to Build Healthy Relationships and Stop Bullying, Abuse, Assault, and other Violence
- Kidpower’s Bullying Solutions Book gives clear explanations, inspiring stories, and step-by-step activities to help teach skills to address and stop bullying, abuse, and violence effectively. This book is used by many schools and youth organizations as a foundation for their own anti-bullying and abuse prevention programs.
- The Kidpower Book for Caring Adults: Personal Safety, Self-Protection, Confidence, and Advocacy for Young People provides a tremendous foundation for how to use “Social Safety” knowledge and skills for your family, school, and youth organization.
- Kidpower and Fullpower Safety Comics and Teaching Books give cartoon-illustrated tools for teaching and practicing Social Safety Skills in age-appropriate, positive ways.
Bullying Solutions Resources in Kidpower’s Online Resources Library
- Face Bullying with Confidence: 8 Kidpower Skills Kids Can Use
- “Walk in Another’s Shoes” Video: Teens Speak Out
- Bullying in Schools: 7 Solutions for Parents
- “Mean Adults?” 5 Skills to Address Adult-to-Adult Bullying
- 5 Actions Adults Can Take NOW to Protect Kids
- “Neighborhood Kids are Bullying My Child, Please Help!”
- Bullying Facts and Solutions
- Speaking Up About Putdowns and Managing Reactions
- Bullying: Common Questions & Answers From Kidpower
- See more articles: Bullying Prevention, Teen Safety, Workplace Communication Safety
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Kidpower Skills for Child Protection Training and Consulting
Kidpower offers a wide range of in-person programs for parents, professionals, children, teens, adults, and people with difficult life challenges based on the specific needs of their families, schools, organizations, or businesses. See our California services or other locations for more information.
We provide long-distance seminars, consulting, and personal coaching sessions that can be conducted anywhere by video-conferencing, email, or telephone. Services also include keynote speakers for conferences, tailored sessions for board and staff retreats, and traveling instructors. Please contact us.
Our three-day Kidpower Skills for Child Protection Advocates Institute provides an in-depth training in how to use our intervention, advocacy, and personal safety skills to protect and empower children and teens. Executive Membership includes a Skype coaching meeting on how to use Kidpower resources to meet your specific needs.