A recent Kidpower success story was from the parents of a six-year-old boy. As the adults were busy chatting, the kids were playing in another room. After quietly telling his cousins to stop tickling him and being ignored, their young son suddenly stood up and yelled loudly enough to be heard all over the house, “STOP! I DONT’ LIKE THIS GAME!”
His parents quickly stepped in and explained that games need to be fun for everyone.
Kids and adults alike benefit from being able to speak up instead of suffering through intrusive games, conversations, affection, and other pressures that often become issues during the holidays. Last month, I was interviewed on the morning radio show with WBEZ 91.5, the NPR station for Chicago, for a segment on “Should We Force Kids to Show Affection?” One of the callers told a poignant story about how being forced to hug and kiss relatives made it harder for her to set healthy boundaries for herself well into her adult life.
We had an excellent discussion about how to handle different issues during our Turning Problems Into Practices Conference call a couple of weeks ago. Some of the topics covered included:
1. How to include a child with special needs in family activities.
2. How to interrupt and redirect a conversation that is embarrassing or upsetting.
3. How to be proactive in preventing problems when families have different routines and different needs.
4. How to support a younger child in being able to set boundaries.
Here is the recording:
Healthy boundaries can help all of us to have more fun and fewer problems with people – during the holidays and all year long!
Sharing knowledge and skills about when to speak up and how to speak up is important. Here are some resources that can help:
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Published: December 22, 2015 | Last Updated: December 22, 2015