Kidpower’s 10 Core ‘People Safety’ Skills
We use the term ‘People Safety’ to mean social-emotional, interpersonal safety skills for preventing and solving problems with people, and for developing healthy relationships that reduce isolation and increase happiness.
You can use these 10 Core ‘People Safety’ Skills, and the links to articles that go more in-depth, as a checklist to prepare children, teens, and adults, including those with special needs, to take charge of their safety and well-being.
1. Act with awareness, calm, and respectful confidence so that people will listen to you better and bother you less.
2. Protect your feelings from hurtful words or behavior instead of taking negative messages inside where they can make you miserable for a very long time.
3. Stay in charge of what you say and do by managing your emotional triggers so that you are able to think clearly, make wise choices, and act respectfully towards yourself and others no matter how you feel inside. Acting respectfully sometimes requires NOT doing what someone wants you to by refusing politely and instead doing what you think is safest or best for your well-being.
4. Recognize what is and is not safe so that you can assess a situation and avoid most trouble before it starts. This includes knowing and using Kidpower’s Relationship Safety Rules and Stranger Safety Rules.
5. Move away from trouble and towards safety so that you can stop problems quickly, before they grow.
6. Check First and Think First before you make decisions about what you do, who is with you, and where you go. Until they have the experience and the skills to make these decisions for themselves, children are safest if they Stay Together with their parents and other responsible adults and Check First before changing the plan. Both children and adults are safer if they Think First before taking action – and Check First with those who are responsible for the results of their decisions.
8. Follow the safety rules about touch, teasing, and play in healthy relationships so that you can have fun and avoid unsafe behavior.
9. Persist until you get the help you need so that you know how to find people who have the power to help you, when and how to interrupt someone who is distracted or busy, and how to keep asking if someone doesn’t listen.
10. Be prepared to use your voice and body to stop an attack so that you can escape from a violent situation and get to safety where someone can help you.
While many of the above linked articles are open to guest access, some do require Online Library membership to access.
The Kidpower Safety and Respect Message
Tell your kids: “You have the RIGHT to be treated with safety and respect, and the RESPONSIBILITY to act safely and respectfully towards yourself and others.”
Featured Kidpower Videos for Social Safety Skills
See for yourself how we teach, and adapt, our safety skills and strategies in our video library
- Fullpower Emotional Safety, Boundary, Advocacy, and Conflict Resolution Webinars for Adults and Teens
- Kidpower Videos for Parents and Other Caring Adults: Safety for Families and Children
- Kidpower Videos for Children With Their Adults
We have videos in English, Spanish, German, French… and more on the way!
Take action to build healthy relationships AND help you avoid and stop bullying, harassment, assault, abuse, and other violence:
Kidpower Publications Provide ‘People Safety’ Skills and Strategies to Build Healthy Relationships and Stop Bullying, Abuse, Assault, and other Violence
The Kidpower Book for Caring Adults: Personal Safety, Self-Protection, Confidence, and Advocacy for Young People provides extensive information on how to protect children from sexual abuse, including clear explanations, inspiring stories, and step-by-step explanations about how to practice skills.
Kidpower’s Bullying Solutions Book gives clear explanations, inspiring stories, and step-by-step activities to help teach skills to address and stop bullying, abuse, and violence effectively. This book is used by many schools and youth organizations as a foundation for their own anti-bullying and abuse prevention programs.
The Relationship Safety Skills Handbook is for teen and adult victims and potential victims of relationship violence (dating and domestic violence), as well as the support people in their lives.
Kidpower and Fullpower Safety Comics and Curriculum Teaching Books give cartoon-illustrated tools for teaching and practicing “People Safety” skills that build healthy relationships and can stop most abuse and bullying by preparing kids to set and respect boundaries, and how to get help.
The Kidpower Teaching Book series specifically provide social stories and skill practices related to building healthy relationships, gaining independence, and keeping kids safe in a clear, age-appropriate way.
Featured Healthy Relationships and Harm Prevention Resources in Kidpower’s Online Resources Library
- What Are ‘People Safety’ Skills?
- Assertive Advocacy Communication Skills
- Acting Friendly or Truly Being Your Friend? – How to Tell the Difference
- Helicopters or Protectors? How to keep kids safe without unhelpful hovering
- Let Kids Talk About THEIR Feelings
- Why Affection and Teasing Should be a Child’s Choice
- How to Stop Negativity from Diminishing our Lives
- When Bullying Can Become an Opportunity to Grow
- Touch and Consent in Healthy Relationships
- Why Problems Should NOT Be Secrets
- Men as Allies to Children
- What to Do If A Child Comes to you for Help (Reporting Possible Abuse, Bullying, Harassment, or Anything Else That Bothers Them)
- Grandparenting: Supporting Strong Family Relationships
- Worthy of Trust: What Organizations Must Do to Protect Children From Harm
- Teaching Children About Safe and Unsafe Secrets
- Safe and Unsafe Bribes
- Personal Safety For Children Through Positive Practice of Skills
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Holidays
- Skills for “Yes Means Yes!” – How to Ensure Consent, Set Boundaries, and Protect Sexual Safety (for teens and adults)
- Speaking Up About Putdowns and Managing Reactions
- Face Bullying with Confidence: 8 Kidpower Skills Kids Can Use
- “Walk in Another’s Shoes” Video: Teens Speak Out
- “Mean Adults?” 5 Skills to Address Adult-to-Adult Bullying
- 5 Actions Adults Can Take NOW to Protect Kids
- See more articles: Bullying Prevention, Teen Safety, Workplace Communication Safety
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Kidpower Skills for Child Protection Training and Consulting
Kidpower offers a wide range of in-person and online programs for parents, professionals, children, teens, adults, and people with difficult life challenges based on the specific needs of their families, schools, organizations, or businesses. See our California services or other locations for more information.
We provide a variety of online ‘People Safety’ webinars, custom long-distance seminars, consulting, and personal coaching sessions that can be conducted anywhere by video-conferencing, email, or telephone. Services also include keynote speakers for conferences, tailored sessions for board and staff retreats, and traveling instructors. Please contact us.
Our three-day Kidpower Skills for Child Protection Advocates Institute provides an in-depth training in how to use our intervention, advocacy, and personal safety skills to protect and empower children and teens. Executive Membership includes a Skype coaching meeting on how to use Kidpower resources to meet your specific needs.